DEAR MISS MANNERS: I like pretty clothes. I like cute shoes and accessories, and I think clothing should be flattering and attractive.

There are a few family members who only wear olive, mustard, khaki, black and other dull colors; clunky, unattractive shoes; and few accessories. I have never commented on their attire. Yet every time they see me, they have something to say. When I attended a baby shower, I wore a dusty pink jacket with a black top, gray pants, pink shoes and a pale pink necklace.

I am out of responses for “Your shoes match your outfit!” (Aren’t they supposed to?) And my necklace was pink, too! Someone even asked my son if I really liked pink or if I was just trying to match the shower. He looked at her like he had no idea what she was talking about.

I feel like I have to defend my choices, but I really don’t know what to say to stop them from these comments. Another cousin will stare at me (and others as well) and then say, “You look tired. Do you feel all right?”

All of these personal comments are in poor taste, awkward and rude. Is there any response that will discourage them?

GENTLE READER: “Thank you.” This is regardless of whether or not the comments are complimentary. For the ones that are not, Miss Manners recommends you just stand there in your cute matching outfit, nodding and smiling as they dig themselves in deeper.

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