DEAR ABBY: My husband asked me to go into his email inbox and settle an issue with an airline. An email popped up: “Your memories from eight years ago” from a popular photo website. We have been together eight years, and I thought I would see photos of us. They weren’t. It was photos of him with his ex-fiancée, including his elaborate proposal. The proposal was something out of a dream. (He proposed to me on our family room couch.) I also realized her ring is exactly like mine.

I’m so hurt. He has never been that romantic with me or put much thought into my gifts. Actually, one year he gave me bed sheets for Christmas, which I never requested. Meanwhile, I’m the one who puts effort into his family’s cards and gifts and helps them with celebrations.

My birthday was this month — I’m eight months pregnant and I had to pick out and buy my own birthday gift because he said he didn’t know what to get me. When I let him know how hurt I feel about everything, he just said, “Let me just go back in time,” and walked away. I feel hurt, stuck and unloved. Am I overreacting? — CRUSHED IN NEW JERSEY

DEAR CRUSHED: I understand your disappointment, but my advice is to revisit this subject after your child is born and you have had more time to think about it. I don’t know what happened with your husband’s prior relationship, but if it had been terrific, it would have lasted.

Not all men are good at planning proposals or choosing cards and gifts, but often they make up for it in other ways. Bide your time.

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