Dear Annie: Lately, I’ve had a couple of people I barely know ask me if I go to church. I find the question surprisingly personal and uncomfortable to answer. The truth is, I don’t attend church, but I still consider myself a person of deep faith. I listen to gospel music every Sunday, pray daily, and believe in God and Jesus.

I stopped going to church years ago after a beloved minister and his family — who had faithfully served the congregation for decades — were abruptly dismissed under circumstances that were never explained. That experience left a lasting impression on me and made it hard to trust organized religion.

What also troubles me is the way some churchgoers have supported political figures whose values, in my opinion, contradict the core teachings of Christianity. I find it deeply hypocritical and disheartening. I don’t want to get into political debates or feel forced to defend my beliefs, especially with people I’ve just met.

How can I respond to this question in a respectful but firm way that sets a boundary without making things awkward? — Perplexed by the Question

Dear Perplexed by the Question: You’re not alone. Many people feel uncomfortable with overly personal questions, especially when they touch on religion or politics. Just smile and say, “I have my own way of connecting with my faith.” Then change the subject. You don’t need to defend your beliefs to anyone.

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