Dear Annie: In spite of being somewhat of an introvert, I have always been able to make good friends throughout my life, from grade school through college through each new job.

However, since my husband and I moved 10 years ago to a retirement community out of state, I have been unable to make a single friend to just do simple things with, like grab lunch, go shopping, see a movie, etc.

I tried joining clubs, volunteering and participating in sports, but no one seems to be interested in being friends outside said particular activity. Some people have shown an initial interest, and we’ll do something together, but after one or two times, they disengage. I give up after a few attempts to get together as I figure the ball is now in their court to follow up.

I am well groomed, intelligent, funny, friendly, kind, and I keep a nice house. I just can’t figure out where I am going wrong or what else to try.

Is that just the way it is after 70? Thanks for any insight you can provide. — Waiting On A Friend

Dear Waiting On A Friend: You’re not doing anything wrong, and this isn’t just “how it is” at your age. Making friends later in life is almost a universal challenge, especially if your peers are settled into their routines or have solid, longtime circles.

You’ve taken all the right steps. Sometimes, deep friendships grow slowly and from regular connection, not just instantly hitting it off with one another. Keep showing up, staying involved, putting yourself out there and being yourself. The right friends for you are still out there, and you’re the kind of person someone’s hoping to find.

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