DEAR MISS MANNERS: Do people say “How do you do?” anymore when being introduced to someone? The phrase seems to have faded away. If it is no longer used, what should I say when being introduced to someone new?

GENTLE READER: You are right about this convention’s having fallen into disuse.

It tended to confuse people because it seemed to be a question, was nevertheless pronounced as if it were a statement, and the correct response was not to say how one was, but to repeat the remark.

So probably not worth saving.

That makes your question a crucial one: What should one say?

A common answer is “Pleased to meet you.” Very few seem to remember, or care, how declasse that phrase was once considered. (It still is in England, where there was national sneering when Carole Middleton, mother of the current Princess of Wales, said it upon first meeting Queen Elizabeth.) The rationale for objecting to this phrase is that one cannot know, when meeting a stranger, whether or not it will be pleasant. This is similar to the objection that “How do you do?” does not really ask how anyone does. Perhaps we should not be subjecting mere conventions to such analysis. Meanwhile, for lack of a better solution, Miss Manners continues to puzzle people by saying “How do you do?” when meeting someone. In letter salutations, the “Hi” that has been replacing the conventional “Dear” (“Dear” being yet another victim of such analysis) is too cheeky for her.

Just “Hello”?

Maybe.

But she is hoping a Gentle Reader will come up with a better solution.

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