Dear Annie: I am struggling with how to handle this situation. My husband and I have been married for 44 years, and we have one son who is married with a grandson.

Five years ago, we decided to move closer to our son’s family to be near our grandson. However, once or twice a year, my husband reminds me that I “ruined his life” by forcing him to move. He accuses me of being selfish for wanting to be closer to our grandson.

Adding to this, my husband strongly dislikes our son’s mother-in-law, which he has made very clear to me. He refuses to attend holiday dinners if she will be there. Our daughter-in-law is unaware of his feelings about her mother. This situation has left me constantly worrying about whether my husband will attend our grandson’s sports activities or events if the other grandmother is present.

I’m exhausted from the stress of managing this ongoing conflict. It’s reached the point where I’m seriously considering divorce, as I no longer want to live with this constant tension and misery.

Any advice you could offer would be greatly appreciated. — Thinking of Divorce

Dear Thinking of Divorce: I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It sounds like you’ve been carrying a heavy emotional burden for a long time. Your feelings matter, and you deserve to feel peace and happiness in your life. Speak openly with your husband about your feelings.

In addition, seek a well-trained marriage therapist to address these issues together. A trusted therapist can also help you explore your feelings and options in a safe, supportive space. Whatever path you choose, please know you’re not alone, and there is hope for a more fulfilling future.

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