Dear Annie: Three months ago, I came home from lunch and my wife had packed up her closet and said: “I’m sorry, but I’m no longer in love with you. I’m bored and lonely, and I’m moving out.”

We have been together 33 years and married 32 years. It was devastating to say the least. Since then, we have spent some time together going to the gym and getting dinner. So she moved back in last week.

Then, after one day, I could tell she was uneasy. She stated she felt it was still too early to live with me again and that she was still not in love with me and still not sure if she wants to be married anymore.

We have never fought or argued about anything our entire marriage. She said not one word to me about this decision at the time. She will not go to see a counselor with me at this point. She states that she is the one who changed and that I’m a wonderful man and a great husband, father and provider.

What must I do to regain her love for me? I miss her terribly! – Emotionally Devastated and Depressed

Dear Reader: I am so sorry that your wife gave up on your marriage without so much as an explanation. That must be incredibly confusing and difficult to accept.

Unfortunately, things won’t get better unless both of you are committed to fixing your marriage. If she’s not, then you’re better off moving on — easier said than done, but time heals all wounds.

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