DEAR MISS MANNERS: As a seasoned hairdresser, I have clients who move away after years of servicing them. They tell me their biggest fears are finding a new doctor and a new hairstylist.

I have often recommended that they politely ask women they meet for the name of their stylist, and whether they are taking new clients. I have gotten new clients by that technique myself. Most women really don’t have a problem with being asked.

GENTLE READER: It is the “politely” part that is key. Also important, Miss Manners suggests, is the assurance that you will not poach their hairdresser, pass their name to too many others or render it impossible for them to get an appointment themselves.

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