Dear Annie: I felt something was wrong with my closest friend for a while. She was my maid of honor but didn’t have a shower for me. She also showed up at the wedding venue fully dressed and made up, when we were supposed to get ready together.

Weeks later, I said it was hurtful that no one had a shower for me. I asked her how she would feel if everyone ignored her upcoming 50th birthday, and she said she wanted to forget she was turning 50. But on the day, she had a party at a restaurant, posting pictures on Facebook and declaring her “BFF” threw the party.

Cut to that summer. When her daughter (whom I’ve known since she was 7) got married, she asked my husband and me if we would video the wedding, and we readily agreed. Weeks went by, and we heard nothing. Then she posted the wedding photos on Facebook.

I was hurt and surprised. I expressed this and she said her daughter found a college friend to do it for free. I told her I was thinking that this was our gift to her daughter, as no one ever mentioned payment nor did we expect one. I also said I was hurt that we were disinvited and she said, “You weren’t disinvited because you were never invited.”

I can’t remember the last time we saw each other, although she lives 15 minutes away. She texts me about once or twice a month.

I want to say something, but it feels like a waste of time.

Should I just stop responding to texts entirely or tell her she’s off the hook and doesn’t have to keep up this pretense? — Hurt and Unsure

Dear Reader: Of course you’re hurt; a friend who once meant a lot to you is now distancing herself without so much as an explanation.

If you hope to get closure, send her a message explaining you’ve noticed the changes in your relationship and it seems that she no longer values having you in her closest circle.

But if that feels like more effort than it’s worth, taking a step back and allowing the friendship to naturally fade is a perfectly healthy option.

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