Dear Annie: I ghosted a friend
Dear Annie: I am, I confess, guilty of ghosting a friend. I used to talk to her daily and had meals with her and her child. I explained to her how we communicated differently, and she just never “got it.”
After she began sending TikTok videos, I just gave up.
While I don’t want to hurt her feelings, communicating with her makes me anxious. I needed to draw the line to preserve my sanity.
Perhaps some of those who have been ghosted might examine their own communications. — Ghosting
Dear Ghosting: There’s nothing wrong with boundaries, but the definition of ghosting is to cut someone off abruptly without explanation.
Your letter doesn’t express why she made you so anxious — surely it had to be something worse than a few TikTok videos — but if you truly want to cut ties, it’s important to tell her why, gently and compassionately, of course.
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