Dear Annie: We live just 20 minutes away from four of our grandchildren — three teenage girls and a young boy. However, their other grandmother lives right next door.

She has plenty of money and often spoils the teenage granddaughters with facials and manicures. She’s taken them to New York City, her beach house and is even planning a cruise to Bermuda with the eldest next spring. For Christmas and birthdays, she gives them expensive jewelry and designer clothes. We simply can’t compete.

And as you can imagine, in the eyes of teenage girls, it’s clear who their favorite grandmother is. — Can’t Compete

Dear Can’t Compete: While you can’t compete with material goods and holidays, you can offer something even more valuable — your love and presence.

A loving presence, where someone truly listens to you, is worth more than all the material goods in the world. You can’t put a price tag on love.

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